It seems like anytime we hear of a couple breaking up, part of their attorneys’ divorce strategy ends up tearing the kids apart or using them as bargaining chips. It doesn’t have to be that way. In fact, there are even some high profile, celebrity examples of divorces where the parents’ focus is remaining committed to their children — Adele, Gwyneth Paltrow and Gwen Stefani. At Affordable Mediation, we have always believed in putting the kids well-being at the top of the list.
Divorce Mediation and Parenting
What can we observe and learn from these celebrity couples? The following famous couples each created their own approach to their divorce, while ensuring that they would be present for their kids. Here is how each one is going about the process:
- Separating in divorce but raising the child together. Adele and her husband “are committed to raising their son together lovingly,” according to her representative. That is an acknowledgement that while the marriage has hit an endpoint, the kids (their son in this case) are still the most important outcome of this marriage. Keeping the focus on your kids’ futures in mediation ensures they do not get lost in the process.
- Gwyneth Paltrow, in typical fashion for her, didn’t simply get divorced. No. She and her husband, Chris Martin, went through what they famously coined a “conscious uncoupling.” What does that mean? “We are parents first and foremost,” said the couple, and that became the focus of their divorce. When parents come into a divorce with that attitude already in place, divorce mediation makes great sense. At that point, both spouses want to reach an agreement without the battle.
- Gwen Stefani and Gavin Rossdale decided to remain “partners in parenting” if not “partners in marriage.” Although they recognized that their parenting styles are different, specifically when it comes to religion, they still ended up in mediation in order to get this worked out and to protect the children.
Keeping Your Kids In Mind
If you and your spouse have decided it’s time for divorce and are concerned about the well-being of your kids, set up a time to come in and talk with one of our mediators. We are committed to helping you remain great parents through the whole process and after the divorce is final. We’ll help you reach an agreement that keeps your kids’ future at the top of our list of priorities. Call us today at 602.622.2008 to set up your free consultation.